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There are days

when I feel like dying

but I’m not talking

about slashing wrist

or hanging my neck on a noose

or jumping out of a cliff

those would be

much too cowardly  

what I mean

by death

is to walk

in voluntary

into a battlefield

under raining missiles

where my body

shall be the armour

to those kids whose bones

cannot

carry them any longer

I have decided

long ago

if I were

to end my life

I might as well die hanging

my corpse 

for a glimpse of sunrise

in their eyes  .  .  . 

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Everyone has three demons in them:
1. The demon of desire
2. The demon of the mind
3. The demon of evil will
These are known in esoteric psychology as the Three Traitors.
These three demons work in the three brains(intellectual, emotional, and motor/instinctual/sexual centers) of the human biped to keep their Essence bottled up in suffering.
These demons enslave the whole world.
To be free from them we need Buddhist Annihilation(complete death of the ego).
We need to die(psychologically).
When we release ourselves from these demons, what we really are can escape from the prison we’ve made for it and it can experience the Truth(Samadhi, Ecstasy)
We need to die from moment to moment. (via theperfectsolution144)
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lgbtqblogs:

Documentary explores what it’s like to be Mormon and trans

A short video has been released exploring issues faced by someone who is Mormon, and brought up in the Mormon Church.

The 15 minute short documentary follows the story of Eri, a Mormon trans woman through to her transition and coming out as transgender.

From coming out initially as gay, to her relationship with her sister, Eri describes in detail what it was like to go to a Mormon private school, live in Utah and grow up surrounded by the Church of the Latter Day Saints.

On the fact that she may never be able to have a temple wedding, Eri says: “Why try if you’re going to fail”.

Whilst supporting Eri’s transition, her father explains that, as she is straight, she should still be able to fit into the Mormon definition of marriage as between “one man and one woman”.

He says he wants her to be able to practice her faith without hindrance or judgement.

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10 Ways to Show Love to Someone With Depression - The Darling Bakers

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mysocalled-gay-life:

Do You Love Someone With Depression?

If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.

Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm environment. 

 (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing her to go deeper into her depression. Help your loved one keep her body healthy, and her mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike (exercise is an effective mood booster!) or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of serotonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here. For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of herself. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

My friend Julie who blogs at Real Fit Mama has a great post about more things you can do to help with depression. Go have a look here! She also wrote a post about finding true happiness here.

This list is in no way exhaustive. I’d love for this to start a conversation, please leave the ways you have found to love someone with depression in the comments.

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Calibrating Signal To Noise

"Last Sunday the assigned Gospel lesson was Jesus telling his disciples what to do if a sister or brother ‘sinned again you.’ Not surprisingly, his first advice was to go directly to that person in private and speak to them. This is the first thing we are to do, and all of us know it. So why don’t we do it?

“Direct dealing is hard, even for those of us who have been commanded to do it by Jesus. When we are hurt or angry we feel vulnerable and don’t fully trust our emotions. As a result, we talk to others who are not involved in the situation or who we know will take our side. We don’t really mean to gossip or triangulate, but the effect is the same and so is the damage.

“When we talk about the situation with someone not involved before we talk to the person who has hurt or angered us, we bring a third person into the emotion of the situation. We may eventually work it out and get over it. The offending person may apologize or explain. We may have misunderstood or, most likely, we were partially responsible. At any rate, by dealing directly with the person, we are able to get some resolution and healing. Our relationship with the offender might even be stronger after our reconciliation.

“The problem with talking to a third party first is that person never has a chance for healing or reconciliation. It is like sharing our poison with them but never sharing the antidote. We have damaged their relationship with the offender, but they have no opportunity for healing that rift.

“It may make us feel better to talk it out with someone else when we are hurt or angry, but it also can be an incredibly selfish thing to do. If you need to, find a professional who is trained to handle the toxins without internalizing them. When we “share” our anger with someone who can’t do anything with it we may feel better, but that is only because we have injected our toxins into the life of an innocent person who may seem all too willing to take the poison but are not made better by it.

™Before you talk to others, go to the person who has offended you and channel the late Joan Rivers by saying, ‘Can we talk?’

“Blessings,

“Rev. Michael Piazza
“The Center for Progressive Renewal”

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thekimonogallery:

A hanging scroll by the well-known artist Kawanabe Kyōsai (1831-89). The painting depicts the Hell Courtesan (Jigoku dayū), a Takasu prostitute who is said to have attained enlightenment with the help of the Rinzai Zen priest and poet Ikkyū (1394-1481), who was well-known not only for his fondness for engaging both devotees and sceptics in dialogues about Buddhist philosophy, but also for his liking for alcohol and brothels. Ikkyū is shown dancing on top of the head of a seated skeleton, kicking his leg out as he waves his arms about in the air, obviously enjoying himself a great deal. Beneath him, the skeleton sits playing a shamisen whilst smaller skeletons dance to the tune it is playing. The Hell Courtesan, standing beside a screen decorated with autumn grasses beneath a golden moon, is dressed in a robe and obi that are adorned with images of the Gods of Good Fortune.

thekimonogallery:

A hanging scroll by the well-known artist Kawanabe Kyōsai (1831-89). The painting depicts the Hell Courtesan (Jigoku dayū), a Takasu prostitute who is said to have attained enlightenment with the help of the Rinzai Zen priest and poet Ikkyū (1394-1481), who was well-known not only for his fondness for engaging both devotees and sceptics in dialogues about Buddhist philosophy, but also for his liking for alcohol and brothels. Ikkyū is shown dancing on top of the head of a seated skeleton, kicking his leg out as he waves his arms about in the air, obviously enjoying himself a great deal. Beneath him, the skeleton sits playing a shamisen whilst smaller skeletons dance to the tune it is playing. The Hell Courtesan, standing beside a screen decorated with autumn grasses beneath a golden moon, is dressed in a robe and obi that are adorned with images of the Gods of Good Fortune.

(Source: ginacolliasuzuki.com)

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In Buddhism there is no place for using effort. Just be ordinary and nothing special. Eat your food, move your bowels, pass water, and when you’re tired go and lie down. The ignorant will laugh at me, but the wise will understand.
Lin Chi (via lazyyogi)
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The addicts hang around addicts and abstainers with the abstainers.
The gamblers mix up with gamblers and scoundrels with scoundrels.
The Love abounds among the thieves and the cheats get together, decieve the country.
Jesters meet jesters enthusiastically, and so do the backbiters.
Swimmers meet similar persons and by meeting, there swimmers go and get across.
The afflicted meet the afflicted ones and share their sufferings.
Likewise, the Sikhs of the Guru feel pleasure in the Holy Congregation.(4)

amalee rachan amaleeaa sofee sofee mael kara(n)dhae||
jooaaree jooaareeaa vaekaramee vaekaram racha(n)dhae||
choraa choraa pireharree t(h)ag t(h)ag mil dhaes t(h)aga(n)dhae||
masakariaa mil masakarae chugalaa chugal oumaahi mila(n)dhae||
manathaaroo manathaarooaa thaaroo thaaroo thaar thara(n)dhae||
dhukhiaarae dhukhiaariaaa(n) mil mil apanae dhukh ruva(n)dhae||
saadhhasa(n)gath gurasikh vasa(n)dhae ||4||

Bhai Gurdaas Ji (via lifeofasikh)
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